Did you know that ALL of our emotions are OK???
Yes, every one of them! This is because they all carry a message.
A message about you and what is important to you…
Meg finally secured her dream job as an executive in a large company, overseeing a team of 45 employees. Before long, however, she was becoming more and more dominating, critical and controlling.
She was aware of it at first – and didn’t know how to fix it. She wanted to impress her boss through her team’s performance. Her fear of failing at this goal was hiding underneath her authoritarian leadership style.
Her team started to resent her behaviour.
Meg shut down noticing how her team felt. Then she also shut down noticing her underlying fear, which was driving her behaviour.
Fortunately Meg came to us to find a solution, before she lost her job. With support, she started questioning the “why” behind her behaviour.
We discovered that her fear held a valuable message:
She was unconsciously still trying to earn her father’s approval and acknowledgement.
He had been a big influence in her life as she grew up. The fear of not living up to his high standards was influencing her behaviour in her new position.
Her current boss reminded her of her father.
Meg’s fear was talking to her. It was definitely a message – and it was an opportunity for growth.
She chose to use this opportunity. She learned how to listen more closely to her feelings again. They helped her realise what she wanted and what was important to her. She reassessed her goals, to make sure they were truly hers and not her father’s.
After completing the I AM Method® with us, she was able to easily transform her leadership style. Her own and her team’s feelings became important again and she was no longer driven by fear of failing.
Naturally, all the other areas of her life also improved, as she was much more in tune with her needs, far less stressed and more responsive to others.
Rasmus Hougaard is the founder of the global leadership organisation, the Potential Project. His studies show that:
The top three desired qualities of a leader in the 21st century are:
selflessness, mindfulness and compassion.
How times have changed!
Unfortunately many of us are taught to fear or hide our emotions. Consequently, they can remain outside of our awareness and we remain unskilled at managing them!
We then miss out on the massive gifts they provide, when we choose instead to embrace them and learn from them.
What used to be called being “soft” (or “emotional”) really is the new “strong”!
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